....Now,
Discover Your Strengths
by Marcus Buckingham, Donald O. Clifton
from
review by Susan Dunn, Emotional Intelligence coach: <site>
-- in her newsletter, Sep
10 2003 :
These two
management experts propose the theory that if you work in your strength
areas, you can perform consistently and effortlessly at a near perfect
level and find great satisfaction without a whole lot of stress.
Sounds
like heaven on earth, doesn't it? Well, here are some ways to discover
your strengths.
Talents + skill + knowledge = strengths.
So how
can you figure out your innate talents are? You can buy their book and
take the StrengthsFinders profile. It will give you your top 5
signature themes and they're such things as: Achiever, Self-assurance,
Relator, Empathy, Focus, Analytical or Strategic.
They're
ways of approaching life rather than qualities such as "courage" or
"bravery," or fields of knowledge such as "math" or "English," or
particular talents, such as "writing" or "singing."
You can
also:
1. Think
about what you liked to do as a child. Talents are innate; they appear
early. ...
2. Ask
your parents what you liked to do as a child. ...
3. Keep
in mind that your parents were human, and they had their own "issues."
For instance, I have a client whose father thought he shouldn't be a
minister, and degraded all his natural talents for ministry. It's hard
to buck such parental pressure. However, you always get a second chance!
4.
Parents can't recognize what they don't know. A mathematical genius
born to two English majors may never get reinforcement for his talents,
no affirmation and no guidance. As an adult, you can do this for
yourself.
5. Think
about what you like to do when you have a choice. What do you do in
your spare time? What do you do on Sunday afternoon?
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