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9 Steps to Unshakeable Confidence
- By Jill Ammon-Wexler
- Published 08/20/2005
- Self concept / self esteem
Jill Ammon-Wexler
Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler is a doctor of psychology, best-selling author, and pioneer brain/mind researcher. She was among the first to introduce mind power training to the corporate world. [From her http://selfgrowth.com profile]
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What is confidence?
According to Webster's dictionary, it's "having no uncertainty about one's abilities."
Have you ever wondered why some people seem totally self-confident, while others are in almost total lack?
Actually - no one is born confident. Confidence is built through life experience, and especially the feedback you receive as a youngster about your experiences. If you receive (and collect) a lifetime of negative believes about your own abilities, then you will have low self confidence.
It's true that some people are naturally extroverted -- naturally bold and outgoing. Others seem to be more naturally introverted, and tend to be more caution in life.
But the fact is -- extroverts are not always self-confident, and introverts do not necessarily lack confidence.
Both extroverts and introverts can have unwavering certainty about their own abilities -- the most basic sign of confidence.
Nine Steps to Self-Confidence
1. Gain some new skills
Building some new personal or career skills will always strengthen your confidence. What would you like to improve? If you would like to speak before others with more confidence, consider joining a Toast Master's group.
Take action and reach out to expand yourself.
2. Recognize your own successes
Nothing builds confidence like success, but too many of us fail to appreciate and recognize our own successes.
You know how you feel when someone else compliments you for something you've done well. Make it a point to personally recognize your own successes, no matter how small they may seem.
3. Believe in your potential
You may not today be the person you wish to be -- but believing in your potential will help you move in that direction.
If you want to achieve something notable in your life, you absolutely must believe in your own potential. Just take it on faith at first, and seek out your personal purpose for living.
4. Learn from your setbacks
Everyone experiences disappointments and set backs, and it's just human to become discouraged at times.
But you can use setbacks as positive experiences if you view them as learning experiences.
Meet your challenges head on, and focus on your intended outcome - not on the obstacles.
5. Get some support
Turn to experts in the areas where you want to build more confidence. You can find expertise in books, ezines, articles, courses, videos, seminars, or even lectures. If you're really serious, get a professional coach to hold you accountable for taking the necessary actions to achieve your goals.
6. Show confidence in others
Just as like attracts like, confidence also attracts confidence. The more confidence you show in others, the more confidence they will show in you. The more recognition you give others, the more confidence-building recognition you will receive.
7. Act as if
Acting "as if" is one of the most powerful life-changing tools known to mankind. Since your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is "real" and what is "acted" -- the more confident you act, the more convinced your powerful subconscious mind will become that you ARE confident. See yourself living with courage and strong conviction.
8. Expect to be confident
Expectation has often been called "faith in action." Expect that you will act confident, and your mind will produce the actions you expect. Expect to be confident, and you will truly become confident.
9. Go On a "Mission"
Whatever you believe to be true IS the truth for you. If you do not believe in your own self and your abilities -- that belief becomes your own internal truth. Remember Webster's definition of confidence: "having no uncertainty about one's abilities."
Uncertainty equals low self-confidence. It's that simple. If you lack confidence, a good personal mission would be to discover your own unique personal strengths. We all have them, and YOU are no exception.
The truth is, none of us ever reaches our maximum capacity. At its best, life is an on-going process of learning and expansion. A basic key to developing unshakable confidence is to know yourself -- your TRUE self.
~ ~ ~
Article provided courtesy of author - Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler, Pioneer brain/mind researcher.
According to Webster's dictionary, it's "having no uncertainty about one's abilities."
Have you ever wondered why some people seem totally self-confident, while others are in almost total lack?
Actually - no one is born confident. Confidence is built through life experience, and especially the feedback you receive as a youngster about your experiences. If you receive (and collect) a lifetime of negative believes about your own abilities, then you will have low self confidence.
It's true that some people are naturally extroverted -- naturally bold and outgoing. Others seem to be more naturally introverted, and tend to be more caution in life.
But the fact is -- extroverts are not always self-confident, and introverts do not necessarily lack confidence.
Both extroverts and introverts can have unwavering certainty about their own abilities -- the most basic sign of confidence.
Nine Steps to Self-Confidence
1. Gain some new skills
Building some new personal or career skills will always strengthen your confidence. What would you like to improve? If you would like to speak before others with more confidence, consider joining a Toast Master's group.
Take action and reach out to expand yourself.
2. Recognize your own successes
Nothing builds confidence like success, but too many of us fail to appreciate and recognize our own successes.
You know how you feel when someone else compliments you for something you've done well. Make it a point to personally recognize your own successes, no matter how small they may seem.
3. Believe in your potential
You may not today be the person you wish to be -- but believing in your potential will help you move in that direction.
If you want to achieve something notable in your life, you absolutely must believe in your own potential. Just take it on faith at first, and seek out your personal purpose for living.
4. Learn from your setbacks
Everyone experiences disappointments and set backs, and it's just human to become discouraged at times.
But you can use setbacks as positive experiences if you view them as learning experiences.
Meet your challenges head on, and focus on your intended outcome - not on the obstacles.
5. Get some support
Turn to experts in the areas where you want to build more confidence. You can find expertise in books, ezines, articles, courses, videos, seminars, or even lectures. If you're really serious, get a professional coach to hold you accountable for taking the necessary actions to achieve your goals.
6. Show confidence in others
Just as like attracts like, confidence also attracts confidence. The more confidence you show in others, the more confidence they will show in you. The more recognition you give others, the more confidence-building recognition you will receive.
7. Act as if
Acting "as if" is one of the most powerful life-changing tools known to mankind. Since your unconscious mind cannot tell the difference between what is "real" and what is "acted" -- the more confident you act, the more convinced your powerful subconscious mind will become that you ARE confident. See yourself living with courage and strong conviction.
8. Expect to be confident
Expectation has often been called "faith in action." Expect that you will act confident, and your mind will produce the actions you expect. Expect to be confident, and you will truly become confident.
9. Go On a "Mission"
Whatever you believe to be true IS the truth for you. If you do not believe in your own self and your abilities -- that belief becomes your own internal truth. Remember Webster's definition of confidence: "having no uncertainty about one's abilities."
Uncertainty equals low self-confidence. It's that simple. If you lack confidence, a good personal mission would be to discover your own unique personal strengths. We all have them, and YOU are no exception.
The truth is, none of us ever reaches our maximum capacity. At its best, life is an on-going process of learning and expansion. A basic key to developing unshakable confidence is to know yourself -- your TRUE self.
~ ~ ~
Article provided courtesy of author - Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler, Pioneer brain/mind researcher.